By Heather Patenaude
This month as we celebrate Valentine’s Day, I want to challenge you women to spice things up in the bedroom! As the conclusion to our series on sex and motherhood, (if you missed it be sure to check out those posts here) we want to encourage you to take action in the area of your sex life.
We’re not going to tell you exactly what to do; we simply want to challenge you to do something to increase sexual intimacy with your husband. We’re calling it the Mom Sex Challenge!
The goal is simple. We want the moms who read this site to so something, anything to increase sexual intimacy with your spouse. We know there are challenges. We’ve been talking about those challenges for several posts. But the truth is, couples who enjoy a connected and loving relationship are better able to handle the stresses of parenthood and ultimately make better moms and dads.
So … what will you do to participate in the mom sex challenge?
Here are a few suggestions:
• Surprise your mate with a long, at home, romantic evening! It’s pretty simple and can cost nothing!
• Do a bedroom “makeover.” Prepare your bedroom during the day with candles, music (maybe music from when you were dating), and fresh sheets. Then remove all kid toys and other kid items from the room.
• Make a habit of using the time in between when the kids fall asleep and when you are ready to go to bed to set the mood. Talk about the first time you saw each other, your first date, your first kiss, your wedding or honeymoon. You can even pull out your wedding album! (And don’t one time say, “Look how thin I was before kids!”) Forget talking about the kids, money, work, or dirty dishes left in the sink!
• Make a commitment to be intimate with your husband every day for a number of days you set. For some, two days in a row might be a dramatic improvement. Others might want to raise that number to 5 to 7 days.
Pick an action step from the list or come up with your own way to respond to the Mom Sex Challenge. Simply, keep in mind the goal — to increase intimacy with your man.
HEATHER PATENAUDE is passionate about living a Christ-centered life. This passion flows over to being a wife to John and a homeschool mom to: Miles 7, Luke 6, and Clark 3. Heather is “doing” motherhood right along the side of most of you and hopes that she can encourage you to look beyond your “bath time” challenges and embrace the beautiful calling of motherhood!
